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Oct 29 2008

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Take the Simply Fearless Focus Challenge {there are prizes!}

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Argh. I can’t find my camera cord to download my photos. It’s true. Right now I have stuff spread out all over the place because I’m in transition. I’m in the process of moving my office back to my home. I feel really good about the move. I don’t feel good about having stuff in two different places and not knowing where everything is.

Okay, so what are you willing to let go of?

I’m willing to let go of uploading my photos right now.

And what are you willing to embrace?

I’m willing to trust that I will find the camera cord in perfect timing. In fact, come to think of it, not uploading my photos right now and not using a photo with this post will save me quite a chunk of time, which is in complete alignment with the Simply Fearless Focus Challenge I’m taking.

What is the Simply Fearless Focus Challenge?

Oh, I’m so glad you asked! Recently, I realized that part of how I get in my own way is by not using my time effectively. Instead of moving right into a new structure to help me get focused, I decided to engage in an awareness practice so that I could learn more about myself and my relationship with time. So here’s how it works:

I created a spreadsheet that lists all of my waking hours in half an hour increments (i.e. 6 – 6:30, 6:30 – 7, etc.) For each half an hour I write down how I used the time. The overall goal is to go from using my time to investing my time wisely. But, before I can do that I need to get a clear picture about where I’m at – otherwise, I could inadvertently run circles around myself.

After I began the Simply Fearless Focus Challenge I realized that at various points throughout the day I would come up with ideas or remember things that I wanted to do. So I added another column I titled “Wish List” on the right hand side of the page. I call it a Wish List because there are always more things that I’d like to do than are humanly possible. The list is created with the understanding and intention that some things will get done and some things won’t. At the beginning of a new day, I look at the previous Wish List and I strike through any items that didn’t get done. If I still want to do that item, then I write it on my new Wish List.

Today is day number 3 in the challenge – I plan on doing it for 7 days – and I’ve learned so much. First of all, did you know that if you are awake from 6am through 10pm that there are 32 half an hour increments?! Isn’t that so cool?! I used to think things like, “I don’t have enough time.” Now I know that there is plenty of time in my day and that it simply boils down to how I choose to use it.

After Day 1, I looked at my day and thought, “Yeah! I used my time wisely.” and then I looked at my Wish List and realized that there was still so much more that I wanted to do. And then it hit me: in real life, things take longer than you think they will. Stop telling everyone that you will do things for them and start being more selective about what you commit to.

On Day 2, I learned that during the hour and a half I had open for business development I chose to work on Book Club stuff. I’m avoiding. Okay, lesson noted and now move on (remember this week is only my awareness practice – I don’t have to fix things I’m not happy with).

Today is Day 3, and I’m excited about continuing to learn and sharing my findings with you. If you’re not whole heartedly satisfied with how you are using your time, then why not take the challenge with me? All you have to do is shoot me an email at Cassandra@SimpleWaysCoaching.com and I’ll get ya set up. This includes a half an hour of free personal coaching! In fact, for anyone who takes and completes the challenge, I will publish an interview with you here on Simply Fearless!

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Oct 28 2008

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I am good enough.

Family Harmony
“Family Harmony”
Photo Artwork by Me!

A huge, heart-felt thank you to everyone who offered their advice and words of encouragement in my freak-out moment.  In case you don’t follow me on Twitter or Facebook, I decided to honor my commitment to family and friends and go to the Cal football game.  Almost as soon as I posted the request to my blog, I knew that the right thing for me was to go to the game.  It’s like all I needed was the space to freak out, write about it, and then ask for help.  And even though I had already decided what to do before I read your comments, it’s important to me that you know just how much your comments helped.  It felt so amazingly good to see such a quick response to my cry for help.  And it was so cool how all of the comments I read before the game turned out to be confirmations for the decision I made, which really boosted my confidence.  So thank you for sharing your thoughts, ideas, and love.  *SQUEEZE*

A funny side-note: I totally forgot that my friend Jerry who I was meeting up with for the Cal game is a subscriber to my blog.  He read about my dilema and then had trouble sleeping not knowing if I was going to show up the next day or not.  Poor guy!  He had no idea that I had already decided to go and there wasn’t time to check in with me about it due to the late hour on Friday and planning to meet early on Saturday.  He must have been so relieved to see me show up on time at the BART station!

In retrospect, I am really glad I chose to go to the Cal game.  This is something I’ve been doing for 10 years and it really means a lot to me and my family.  In fact, I used to go to all the games.  Now that we only go to one a year it has become even more of a special occasion.  My only complaint is that when we met up with the extended crowd of friends to tailgate, people gave me such a hard time for not going to all of the games.  It’s like they focused on what I wasn’t doing instead of the fact that I was there with them in the moment.  I guess maybe part of me was buying into the idea of “I should be doing more” (oh, that reminds me of yesterday’s post!) but, honestly I feel good about choosing to do what works best for me and my family.

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Oct 27 2008

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I woke up angry today because…

I woke up angry today because it’s Monday, the first day of a new week and I’m exhausted. The entire weekend was non-stop. It began on Friday night with book club. Saturday we left at 8:30am for Berkeley and didn’t arrive home until 9pm with just enough time to unwind a bit and go to bed. Sunday we traveled again to Monterey (about an hour and a half away) so that our daughter could perform. She didn’t end up performing (that’s a whole other issue I may or may not go into). I had just enough time left on Sunday to make a mandatory trip to Costco & Pet Club and begin the laundry I haven’t done for 2 weeks.

And then this morning I found out that my daughter lied to me last night and has been hiding the fact that she wasn’t allowed to buy her bus pass for October because she cut school in September. I mean, damn, it’s almost the end of October and I just found out that she’s been paying her bus fare the entire month.

Okay, so things are not where I want them to be on the home front…on any front really. I’m not where I want to be with my business, with my daughter, with my friend Larissa, and pretty much with myself. It would be so easy for me to seriously beat myself up right now. In fact, that’s what I’ve been doing. And maybe that’s the real reason why I’m angry: I never give myself a break.

It just occurred to me that Coach Vanessa gave me some excellent advice last week about finding freedom through accepting myself. I’m going to go check it out again. I remember that she offered some powerful questions that I haven’t answered yet. It seems like now is a good time to do so.

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Oct 24 2008

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I need your advice, please.

So tomorrow is our annual Cal football game. We used to be season ticket holders and go to all the home games. But, then we realized that it was taking so much energy – one Saturday event would consume the whole weekend really because Sunday we were too tired to do much else. Plus, we have Gracie the Chihuahua and a busy teenage daughter. So we whittled it down to one game a year and tomorrow’s the day. We picked this day months ago and our good friends bought the tickets for us. It’s even the birthday of another friend who we’ve chipped in to buy a gift for.

Here’s where I need your advice.

The thing is…tomorrow is also BizTechDay in San Francisco. So many of my entrepreneur friends have invited me to go. In fact, I’ve even been invited to go at no cost. Damn. I really want to go. The solopreneurs that I look up to are going and I know it would be really good for my business to attend.

Here’s another catch.

The Hubs and Daughter have said that if I cancel going to the game, then they’ll cancel too. They said, “It’s simply not the same without you.” At first I was like, “Damn! That’s a lot of pressure.” It’s true. I feel like I’m deciding for all of us and not just me. But, I know that’s not entirely true. I also know how important my presence is to the friends we’ve promised to go with.

But, the truth is my heart is at BizTechDay. I mean, I’ve known about it for quite some time and knew that I was already booked and it wasn’t a big deal. Until I started receiving personal invitation from people I really admire.

Crap. What should I do?

Oh my heaven…and I just remembered that another really good friend who is moving away soon is having a baby shower tomorrow and I really want to go to that too. Double crap! I feel torn in so many different directions and I feel loyal to everyone…which also makes me feel loyal to none.

Now I really need your help.

Oh, and while I was writing this Daughter tells me, “You’re not supporting me. You’re just pressuring me. You’ve done nothing but pressure me all week.”

Argh.

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Oct 23 2008

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Have You Taken a Break Today?

Today I worked from home and about once an hour I would take a break and give my “office mates” a little love. I just couldn’t resist…I had to bust out the camera:

Harmony

Hilarious!

Gracie and Her Favorite Blanky

Now back to work…what a nice break!  Have you taken a break today?  And I don’t mean just a physical break. I mean a mental and emotional one too. So during this time, there is nothing else for you to do but relax. No mental back-lash and no feeling bad about it. This is your time to rejuvenate!

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Oct 22 2008

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Free On-line Coaching: perfecting perfectionism

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It is what it is
“It is what it is”
Photo artwork by Me!

Okay so the last 2 days have been CRAP! But, today I feel back to my usual chipper self because I finally got to a point where I admitted I needed a break and I gave myself permission to take one. Not only did I rest physically, but I let go of feeling like I needed to keep doing stuff and allowed myself to take a mental and emotional break from building my coaching practice…well, from everything really. And it felt amazing…especially the part when I was soaking in the hot tub :~)

And then this morning I received an email from Coach Vanessa letting me know that she had posted an answer for me on her blog. She writes a column and actually offers FREE on-line coaching. Isn’t that so cool?! Plus the coaching she gave me is phenomenal! Here’s what I asked her:

Hi Coach Vanessa ~

Perfectionism has been a big challenge for me. Do you have any advice about how to release perfectionism so that I can jump in and play the game of life bigger and funner?! Thanks :~)

Simply Fearless ~

Cassandra

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Hi Cassandra,

Great question. A good starting place would be…{click here to continue reading and post your insightful comments}

If you’d like to submit your own question to receive free on-line coaching from Coach Vanessa, then email her directly by clicking here.

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Oct 20 2008

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Bumping Up Against Myself

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“Sundaze: Xerochrysum bracteatum, Kruidtuin, Antwerp, Belgium”

Photo Artwork by Rana Pipiens

Today I feel like I bumped up against myself. No, that’s not true. I did bump up against myself. It’s like an inner wall of resistance…

“Nope. You’re not going any further.”

But, why not?

“Just cuz.”

Oh, okay.

And then I took a nap.

I do seem to ping-pong in between super motivated and super drained. I think I need to balance some stuff out. I’m not exactly sure how I’m going to do that. I guess with some more meditating – which actually sounds appealing – and tomorrow I have the second Know Your Purpose teleclass.

Learning has always comforted me.

Oh, and beautiful photos too. I hope you enjoy today’s pick.

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Oct 19 2008

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Weekly Winners: 10 Simple Ways to Grow

When I am with my camera I look for beauty in everything. I stop viewing things as “pretty” or “ugly”. Instead I look for things that will make interesting photos. I seek to capture a moment, an expression. Imagine if you looked at your life that way…instead of judging yourself or others as “good” or “bad” you looked for the beauty in everything.

#1 Evolve

Evolve

#2 Let go

Let Go

#3 Be Different

Be Different

#4 Hang On

Hang On

#5 Stand Out

Crowning Glory

#6 Smell Pretty

Smell Pretty

#7 Get Together

Get Together

#8 Reach Out

Crazy Hair Day

#9 Shine

Photography is Part of my Purpose

#10 Nurture

Success!

I hope you enjoyed this week’s theme of embracing your natural beauty.  You truly are a gift from God.

Enjoy more Weekly Winners over at Sarcastic Mom

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Oct 18 2008

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Bliss Out Your Photos

Evolve
“Evolve”
Photo Artwork by Me!

Just a quick update today: Hubs is getting better, but is still sick so we’re not doing much this afternoon.  He’s taking a nap right now to store up some energy so that we can enjoy the Cal football game together tonight with our friend Jerry.  I had another amazing meditation moment this morning and I’m so happy with my new practice.  Yesterday’s Know Your Purpose coaching group was awesome and I really like all the other people in my group.  Now, I’m off to read – book club is next Friday.

Oh, and one more thing…I am a contributing writer & photographer for the Photo Bliss Colum over at Blissfully Domestic.  Here is my latest treasure: 3Tips & a Trick for Point-n-Clicker Photographers

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Oct 17 2008

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I Meditated Without Falling Asleep!

My Daily Practice
“My Daily Practice”
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I did it!  I successfully meditated this morning without falling asleep.  Yay!  Here’s what I did:

Instead of meditating right out of bed, I waited until after I had…actually my morning routine is kinda cool so I’m just going to share it with you:

  • 5:30am out of bed
  • Take Gracie out for a potty, make coffee & my lunch, feed Gracie
  • Do my morning practice while drinking my coffee (morning practice = journal, write 5 acknowledgments, 1 truth affirmation, a gratitude paragraph, jot down any business development ideas, and create an intention for the day – this usually takes about 30 minutes.  It used to take longer, but I’ve been doing it for years now and it usually flows through me in a short half an hour)
  • Take Gracie for a walk
  • Do my morning stretches
  • Go for 30 minute run
  • Shower & get ready for the day
  • Begin my work day

So my new commitment going forward is to meditate for 20 minutes after I shower & get ready and before I begin the rest of my day.  I plan on doing this both during the week and on weekends.  I’ll let ya know how it goes (or doesn’t go).

Also, I switched up my meditation style.  Instead of repeating a Sanskrit word in my mind or counting my breath, I simply notice my breathing.  I say in my mind, “Breathe in.  Breathe out.” in alignment with my acutal breathing.  And once I feel the connection between my awareness and my body, I begin to explore the inner landscape.  I open up to receiving thoughts and ideas from God* and I allow myself to wander.  But, it’s not an aimless wander.  It’s an intentional connection with my spirit as I connect with God.  It’s really neat!  And here are some of the messages I received today:

I work with people who feel disconnected, stuck and confused, but who are ready to discover their unique answers, create fulfilling relationships, and connect with their own sense of confidence and clarity.

How cool is that?!  I’ve been trying to articulate what I do for years!  Here’s another one:

I work with teens and adults with all sorts of different problems and goals, but they all want the same thing: a clear sense of self, purpose, and meaning.

Whoa!  Really?  Awesome.

I am answering God’s calling for my life and in turn providing a valuable resource for others.

Oh…it’s win-win!

The calling is a divine calling that when answered unlocks an abundance of inspiration, opportunities, and synchronicity.

Yes, I am ready for this!  Bring it on.

I fully surrender to my divine purpose.  I trust in the power of the universe to lead me where I need to go and I take bold steps towards God.

Woohoo!  I’m rocking it out today in my meditative space!  I also drew a picture that ended up looking like God’s flashlight.  He shines a light for me to follow and when I do I also lead others toward finding their own way.  I’m so glad I switched up my practice because now I’m looking forward to meditating.  Before I was like, “Oh.  It’s time to meditate now.  Great.”  But, now that I’m staying awake and doing it my way I’m loving it!

What about you?  Do you meditate?  Or do you want to meditate?  Do tell.

*a note about God: please understand that when I use the term God I am not referring to any particular religion.  In fact, I am referring to the God in all religions.

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