Archive for December, 2008

Dec 19 2008

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Coach Cassandra Rae

Reconnecting with You & Announcing the Simply Fearless Twitter Stream!

Fallen Beauty
Beauty is everywhere ~ even beneath your feet

Wow!  Can you believe it’s been more than 2 weeks since my last post? I can’t.  I guess I needed a little breather after NaBloPoMo.  During the month of November I blogged every day right after I went running and before I showered.  Yes, I was sweaty and smelly.  But, it was also the perfect structure to keep me posting every day.  I mean, I couldn’t exactly go out and meet with clients like that.

I also found that right after running is an extremely creative time for me.  There’s something about exercising that puts me in the perfect frame of heart and mind for the words to simply flow out of me.  So what have I been doing during this time instead of blogging? I’ve been meditating.

In the past, I’ve fallen asleep while meditating and on the flip side, I’ve also experienced a lot of success with meditation.  I know that nurturing a spiritual connection is a vital piece to my success in life and I am so happy to have discovered a method that works for me.  It is a blend of all the methods I learned from Cassie, Cheri, and Tim.  And the really cool thing is that through this connection, I am creating a whole new Simply Fearless Community!

I am designing a website, creating an 8 week coaching program, and flowing with a new Twitter Stream!  How cool is that?!

Wait a minute.  It just hit me that I haven’t updated you on my daughter.  In my last blog post, I shared my heartbreak in her first break-up.  I must THANK YOU! for all of your kind words and for simply being there to receive my thoughts and feelings.  Just the process of blogging about it helped me to release my stuff so that I could go back to being the strong, kind, and supportive mother I like to be.  Also, everyone’s advice was so helpful.  It tuly enabled me to step out of the confusion and to step back into knowing how to support my daughter without getting all caught up in her stuff.

My daughter is an *AMAZING* person.  She dealt with everything beautifully.  She cried.  And cried.  And cried some more.  She also laughed.  And threw a fit here and there.  She reached out at times.  She withdrew at other times.  But, most importantly she allowed me to just hold her.  One night at bedtime I was lucky enough to crawl into bed with her, wrap my arms around her and hold her.  Now she would kill me if she knew I was sharing this with you, so I’m trusting you not to say anything!  I know these moments are fewer and farther in between.  But, I certainly hope that they never go away completely.  We all need to snuggle with our moms from time to time.  There really is nothing else in the world that can compare to the safety of mom’s loving arms.

Okay, back to catching you up on everything.  My daughter has recovered from her break-up and is back to having fun, going out with friends, and even a little boy shopping too.  No boy shopping for me, but I have picked up a ton of new ideas that will be rolling out in the new year.  In fact, one of them is already in place.  And you can go check it out right now, right here.

It is the Simply Fearless Twitter Stream!

Each day I post a Simply Fearless tip, quote, or question to inspire, support, and challenge you to live a Simply Fearless life.  The really cool thing about it is that everyone who follows (subscribes to my stream) is invited to send me a direct message through Twitter telling me why they are Simply Fearless.  I post people’s answers to the stream and have begun to gather an amazing collection of Simply Fearless Wisdom.  I am learning so much from contributors.  I invite you to check it out, become a follower, and send in your Simply Fearless thoughts.  I want to learn from you!

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Dec 01 2008

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Coach Cassandra Rae

My heart is cracking open ~ your advice please

Filed under Family & Parenting

My heart is cracking open.  I’ve held it together for the past day to be strong for her, to believe for her that everything is going to be okay, to know for her that she will get through this.  But, now she is gone and I am here still feeling her pain.

As her mother, I only want to reach out and touch the pain – not hold onto it as my own – but, I also want to make it go away.  Even though I know that isn’t the way.

I want to both show my pain for her and hide it as well.

I want to say the right thing.

Do the right thing.

And yet, at times like these there is no right thing.

Sometimes it’s about being strong so that she can be hurt and angry.

But, I’m also afraid.

Afraid she won’t make it…

No, I can’t go there.

But, I must go there.

It’s okay to be afraid for her.

It’s okay to cry for her.

Let it out, just like you tell her to.

I just feel so helpless.  A mother’s love isn’t the same.

And yet, it’s no less important.  You are the stream that never stops flowing.

I’ve got to go now.

Please comment or email {Cassandra@SimplyFearless.com} your advice or words of encouragement.  How does a mother support her teen’s first broken heart?

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