Connecting with the Wisdom of Your Soul

One of the things I’ve learned during these past couple of years is that connection changes everything:

Disagreements are resolved. Relationships are healed. New careers are chosen. Creativity is accelerated. Talents are discovered. New trajectories are forged. Fear is dissolved. 

All through a willingness to connect. 

You see, there is a loving presence, a spiritual magnificence, a creative genius at the center of everyone, at the center of you. Call it what you will. I call it your soul.

Your soul is guiding you. Are you listening? Are you following? Are you resisting?

The real catch here is that your soul doesn’t follow any sort of pre-determined, socially-accepted path. Have you ever noticed how the people who experience deep levels of joy, fulfillment, purpose, and peace have unique stories, surprising adventures, and even painful challenges and triumphs? 

So this is what I want to explore: 

How to connect with your soul, your clarity, your truth, your calling and also how to connect with one another in order to create healthy community.

I believe that connection changes everything. It has the power to change our society, our laws, our government, our churches, our schools, our culture. 

Would you like to join me? 

I hope so. I’m currently in the process of creating a new website with freebies for you. I will keep you updated through this email list and you can sign up here:




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If not, no worries and no pressure.

Either way, I am grateful for you and know that you are being clearly guided. Your soul knows and you have the wisdom and power to choose the highest and best for you.

Belonging, Uplifting, and Unleashing

Focusing on one’s presence really makes a huge difference. Well, I’m sure that Brene Brown mantra helped too! I went to my last Spring Retreat in ministerial training and I had so much fun.

Even more than that, I had a solid sense of belonging. I never felt weird or lonely or out of place. I have a group of friends that love and accept me. I felt welcomed and celebrated. I genuinely appreciated each person at the retreat – even those I don’t necessarily jive with. There was a deep sense of peace within me that I haven’t experienced at one of these retreats before. 

The old narrative of ‘I don’t belong’ is loosening its grip on me. This is a major breakthrough for me – one that I’ve been actively and intentionally working to heal. 

You see, I believe that belonging is a birthright. I also believe that it’s a critical element of spiritual community. It’s something I want to cultivate and nurture as a spiritual leader. So It’s something I need to cultivate and nurture within myself.

One of my favorite experiences was co-creating the Sunday service with my fellow graduates. We chose the theme Uplift: Spiritual Passion Unleashed and I helped to create the program:

Here are the four of us together:

Graduates from left to right: Tamara, Peggy, me, and Aikya

And here is a group photo of all of us:

Spring Retreat 2018 ~ School of Spiritual Leadership ~ Santa Rosa Campus

As I approach graduation and the completion of ministerial training, I am focusing more and more on who I am and how I want to show up. I’m not at all where I thought I would be at this stage in the process and that’s okay. I’m letting go of what I thought it would be and I’m embracing what it is. Because truly there is something bigger at play here and I choose to trust in it.

Journal prompts for you:

  • When do you feel a sense of belonging?
  • Who celebrates you?
  • Who really gets you?
  • What do you want to cultivate and nurture in your life?
  • How do you want to show up?

Your Presence Changes Things

Remember last time how I shared about experimenting with being versus doing? Well, I had a breakthrough! And I’m super grateful because I’ve found it really challenging to explore being. In fact, I was talking with my husband about it and he lovingly pointed out to me that all the ideas I had were things I could do! Yeah, I know. Being isn’t something you do. It’s something you allow and experience.

Which is why I am so excited that I had one of those Aha! moments this morning. I was reflecting on the retreat I’m going to this weekend (it’s my last one for ministerial school!) and I realized that as it turns out I have a very small role to play. You see, the seniors have responsibilities at retreat and being a senior I have responsibilities. But, they are minor. Then it hit me:

Even though I have a small part to play this weekend, my presence will make a difference.

The most important part about this experience isn’t what I’m going to do. In fact, there are other people who could do what I’m going to do at this retreat.┬áBut, there is absolutely no one else who can be me at this retreat. I am the one who brings my insights, my heart, my energy, and me to this retreat.

And my presence will change things.

Just like the presence of each student and each facilitator will change things. Together we will create an experience, an opportunity to know ourselves, to know Universal Truth, and to know each other. And isn’t that what spiritual community is all about? Being together, growing together, supporting each other, seeing the Truth in each other, and celebrating one another with love, kindness, and respect? Yes, it is.

It is also about providing space for our humanity – the tender parts of ourself, the pain, the disappointment, the grief, the fear, the uncertainty. I have found that some of the strongest connections I’ve experienced are when we are brave enough to feel all the feels together without judgment and with compassion.

So I enter this retreat with an open heart. My intention is to deepen my understanding and experience of being. I am reminded of one of Brene Brown’s mantras:

Don’t shrink. Don’t puff up. Stand your sacred ground and be seen.

I remember that true belonging isn’t about fitting in. It’s about authenticity and courage. It’s about the willingness to be oneself, to let yourself be fully present, and to love yourself through it all.