Feb 07 2010
100 Things I Fear: receiving
82. {12/12/09} As Rev Dave says, I was a Receiving Monster today! I let all limiting beliefs go, sat back, relaxed, and enjoyed. Aaahhh…
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Feb 01 2010
100 Things I Fear: grouchiness
75. {12/05/09} Oh I got grouchy today. Then I snapped at The Hubs. It was so hard to clean it up because…well, because I was grouchy! But, after a 30 minute silent car ride I apologized for my behavior so that we could arrive at our friend’s house with a light heart. It really was better to just admit I behaved badly and move on.
Jan 18 2010
100 Things I Fear: love
61. {11/21/09} Telling a friend out loud and openly that I love her!
Jan 01 2010
100 Things I Fear: fight with The Hubs
Today is the first day of a brand new year. Woohoo! As I move on to fun and exciting new projects I wanted to pause for a moment to wrap up the 100 Things I Fear challenge. At first, I was going to write one blog post listing all of the fears from day 44 through day 100. But, that’s way too much information for one blog post. So I’m going to break it up and schedule blog posts to share one per day. Here goes:
44. {11/04/09} Oh my goodness. I got in a huge argument with The Hubs which is very rare for us so it triggered A LOT of fear. But, I opened up and shared how I felt while explaining all the conflicting parts of myself. My biggest win in this situation was that I didn’t attack him in the process. This is a new way of being for me as my old habit was to blame everyone else for how I felt. I’m so lucky because The Hubs also opened up and shared his stuff and ultimately the experience brought us closer together. I learned: WHEN YOU WORK THROUGH YOUR PROBLEMS, THEN THEY BECOME THE STUFF THAT BRINGS YOU CLOSER TOGETHER. How cool is that?
p.s. I am moving my personal blog to SimplyFearless.com. I invite you to swing on by and check it out. Here is the category that is dedicated for sharing my personal process. After the 100 Things I Fear challenge is wrapped up, then this site will be redone and I will no longer be using it as a blog. I hope you join me on Simply Fearless!
Sep 15 2009
VLOG: Feeling down? This one’s for you
In this short video {2:45} I come to you live, without any makeup, after running and all sweaty – good thing you can’t smell through video! I just couldn’t wait to give you this gift. This video is for whenever you are feeling down, unloved, or lonely. Visit this video whenever you need some love.
Aug 28 2009
Men are Heartless
“thoughtfulness” by lampelina
Men are heartless.
It’s a total lie. You know it. I know it. And yet, we continue to shun men who express their emotions. We label them as weak or homosexual. What an insult to men and the gay community.
So how do we go about creating an environment where men are accepted as the sentient beings we all are? I’m so glad you asked because I’ve got some great ideas!
First of all, as HGTV says, “start at home.”
Women…ask the men in your home how they are feeling and then stop talking and start listening. Create a safe, quiet space for your men to open up in. This doesn’t have to be long and involved. I’m talking about a few minutes at a time.
Men…describe how you are feeling even if you don’t understand it. This isn’t about solving a problem. It’s only about giving words to what’s inside as a way to let it out. This can be to your beloved, a friend, or even in your journal. What? You don’t have a journal? Why not? Go out there and treat yourself to a book that’s all about you.
As you can see, I’m not talking about rocket science here. I’m talking about giving a few minutes of time, energy, and attention to the often overlooked heart of a man. Try these simple ideas and let me know how it goes. Did any challenges come up for you? Are you struggling to get started? Or do you have more ideas that you’d like to share? I’d love to hear about it.
Simply Fearless ~
Coach Cassandra Rae
Cassandra[at]SimplyFearless.com
Nov 02 2008
Facing My Fears {Know Your Purpose – part 2}
I just finished exposing my fears, concerns, and reservations about knowing and living my purpose with my peer coach John. Whew! What a process.
I learned that my fears lead me down a dark and twisted road, but if I keep walking through them the road straightens out and the light of awareness rises just like the sun. In fact, if I were to become a bird and fly high up above this path I’m on I could see that the dark, twisted parts of the road are only small bits that come right before long stretches of beautiful country!
I also learned that even when I know my purpose, I do not always have to follow it. I get to choose at every step along the way because I always have the right to continue, stop, slow down, or turn around all together.
I cannot tell you how much of a relief all of this is. Wait a minute. Yes, I can. This is such a relief!
And furthermore, I realized that part of why I’ve been getting in my own way is because so much of the fear I wasn’t processing was rooted in the fear of losing my husband. There was no way I could move forward without addressing these fears because it quite literally wasn’t safe for me to continue. In other words, continuing meant compromising my marriage. And I’m not saying that the fear of losing my husband was rational, but it doesn’t matter if the fear is rational or not. The point was I needed to address the fear so that I could make it safe for me to continue. In fact, now I am grateful to myself for getting in my own way because it gave me the opportunity to slow down and fully embrace the fear. I know this sounds backwards, but what I have done is embraced the fear away!
Woohoo!
Now I have to sign off because I’m going to go spend the next hour and a half with my husband before the ladies come over for the spa party I’m throwing :~)
{note: you can read Know Your Purpose – part 1 here}
