Coach Cassandra Rae

“Family Harmony”
Photo Artwork by Me!

A huge, heart-felt thank you to everyone who offered their advice and words of encouragement in my freak-out moment.  In case you don’t follow me on Twitter or Facebook, I decided to honor my commitment to family and friends and go to the Cal football game.  Almost as soon as I posted the request to my blog, I knew that the right thing for me was to go to the game.  It’s like all I needed was the space to freak out, write about it, and then ask for help.  And even though I had already decided what to do before I read your comments, it’s important to me that you know just how much your comments helped.  It felt so amazingly good to see such a quick response to my cry for help.  And it was so cool how all of the comments I read before the game turned out to be confirmations for the decision I made, which really boosted my confidence.  So thank you for sharing your thoughts, ideas, and love.  *SQUEEZE*

A funny side-note: I totally forgot that my friend Jerry who I was meeting up with for the Cal game is a subscriber to my blog.  He read about my dilema and then had trouble sleeping not knowing if I was going to show up the next day or not.  Poor guy!  He had no idea that I had already decided to go and there wasn’t time to check in with me about it due to the late hour on Friday and planning to meet early on Saturday.  He must have been so relieved to see me show up on time at the BART station!

In retrospect, I am really glad I chose to go to the Cal game.  This is something I’ve been doing for 10 years and it really means a lot to me and my family.  In fact, I used to go to all the games.  Now that we only go to one a year it has become even more of a special occasion.  My only complaint is that when we met up with the extended crowd of friends to tailgate, people gave me such a hard time for not going to all of the games.  It’s like they focused on what I wasn’t doing instead of the fact that I was there with them in the moment.  I guess maybe part of me was buying into the idea of “I should be doing more” (oh, that reminds me of yesterday’s post!) but, honestly I feel good about choosing to do what works best for me and my family.

Tags: advice, Family, friends, support