During this morning’s conversation with God I asked him why he was always so accepting of me and giving me permission to feel how I feel no matter how much I don’t like how I feel and he didn’t even have to answer me directly.  In my frustration about his acceptance – can you believe I was frustrated by being accepted?! – I was venting about it and realized that if he scolded me for where I was at and told me that I have to do x, y, or z, that then I would totally rebel against him.

It was such an eye opener and all of a sudden I had a deeper understanding why giving myself permission is so much more powerful than pressuring myself into moving forward.

You see, I tend to do that: pressure myself relentlessly.

But, whenever I’m connecting with God he doesn’t do that to me.  Instead he continually tells me, “That’s okay.”  Even when I’m like, “I feel like such a failure!” he always responds with, “That’s okay.”

And this morning I was fed up.  I asked, “How is that okay? How is it okay that I feel uninspired? Can’t you just force me to stay inspired?”

And that’s when it hit me!  It really wouldn’t work if God continually told me that I’m not okay and forced me to take action.

So, if God is smart enough to know that force doesn’t work, then why am I continually trying to force myself?

You know, it’s such a human thing to force and try.  That’s really not what I should focus on here.  It would be way more powerful for me to make a commitment to follow God’s lead, give myself permission, and embrace myself along the way.

So today as I begin my day I am willing to commit to notice whenever I’m pressuring myself, to let it go, and to give myself permission to be where I’m at.  And you know what? I feel more inspired now than I have in weeks!

What about you? Which path will you choose? Pressuring yourself into action? Or accepting yourself into it? I’d love to hear your take.  Please post your thoughts, fears, and insights.

1. Support You
   • I help to lighten your load
   • I walk with you through everything
   • I hold a safe space for you to process, vent, release, cry, brainstorm, and celebrate
2. Inspire You
   • I believe in you whole-heartedly
   • I see who you truly are and
   • I adore you
3. Challenge You
   • With the truth
   • To move through and take action
   • All while whole-heartedly accepting you
   • I ask you to take the next step

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Rock it out, Peeps!

And then this morning I found out that my daughter lied to me last night and has been hiding the fact that she wasn’t allowed to buy her bus pass for October because she cut school in September. I mean, damn, it’s almost the end of October and I just found out that she’s been paying her bus fare the entire month.

Okay, so things are not where I want them to be on the home front…on any front really. I’m not where I want to be with my business, with my daughter, with my friend Larissa, and pretty much with myself. It would be so easy for me to seriously beat myself up right now. In fact, that’s what I’ve been doing. And maybe that’s the real reason why I’m angry: I never give myself a break.

It just occurred to me that Coach Vanessa gave me some excellent advice last week about finding freedom through accepting myself. I’m going to go check it out again. I remember that she offered some powerful questions that I haven’t answered yet. It seems like now is a good time to do so.