Oct 20 2009
Loser! with a capital L
In this video {2:15} I talk about feeling like a failure {yuk!} and how I moved through it.
Now that you’ve watched it, what do you think? I’d love to hear about your insights and struggles.
Tag Archive 'career'
Oct 08 2009
Dear Alex ~ you are literary genious.
Alex the novelist
Dear Alex ~
I don’t know exactly why I’m writing this here on my blog. I just am. And I wonder if it was inspired by this beautiful tribute post. You know what? It doesn’t really matter why…
A few years ago you gave me a manuscript to read. I’ve always thought of it as the Dearest Rook manuscript as those are the first two words of the prologue. Anyway, I never read it. I don’t know why {I’m sensing a theme here.} I just didn’t. In fact, I’ve moved it around from pile to pile of paper in my office until finally it made its home in an upright paper organizer on my desk just behind my laptop. Whenever I gaze off into la-la land to give my mind a break I often rest my eyes on “Dearest Rook.”
Well, this afternoon while I was waiting for my computer to reboot I rediscovered your manuscript. Before thinking about it, I picked it up and read the first paragraph. And there was simply no way I could put it down after that juicy adventure of an introduction. I have now spent the last hour reading every single word, sentence, and suggestion {there are notes in the sidebar.}
One of the final notes written about your manuscript was “very good” and I must passionately disagree.
It’s not very good.
Alex, it’s beautiful.
No, that’s not the right description.
It’s amazing.
No, that doesn’t sum it up either.
Alex, it’s literary.
It’s genius.
It’s literary genius!
And I *LOVE* it.
You are a master at crafting words to create a vibrant and very real scene in the reader’s eye complete with physical and emotional sensations. You are a magical story teller.
I’m so sorry that I didn’t take the time to see this when you initially gave me the manuscript. I can only trust that right now, today is the absolute perfect time for me to realize that you are a talented writer. This is print worthy fiction and I am dying to know how the first 3 chapters fit together in the bigger picture of the novel, how the characters meet one another, if Yuri is murdered, how Edwin comes to believe, if Jennifer lives, and so much more.
Alex, it is no coincidence that you now work in a library surrounded by books. I know that you are meant to write, to be published, and to be a part of a library long after you’ve physically left this world. You are talented beyond description. And you don’t have to wait to become a writer. You already are one.
Please write more. And if you’ve already written more of the Dearest Rook manuscript please send me a copy.
I love you.
~ Tia
Sep 24 2009
VLOG: From Hate to Happiness Right Now
Although it didn’t make my 100 Things I Fear list today – it totally freaked me out to record on location. I was so excited about it and then I arrived and got all self conscious. It was so weird because I’m usually not shy about stuff at all. But, I was in a public plaza with high rise buildings all around. People who I couldn’t even see could have been watching…funny how I’m so willing to post my vid all over the net, but God forbid a stranger see me film! I guess it’s a vulnerable place to be. Yeah, it is a vulnerable place to be and I look forward to doing it again until it doesn’t freak me out at all. Hey, maybe it will make my 100 Things I Fear list in the future!
Okay enough rambling, this video {3:06} is all about feeling better now even when you’re in a job you hate. Check it out and let me know what you do.
Aug 31 2009
Do you feel the pressure to be productive at work?
One of the things that The Hubs and I talk about a lot is the pressure to be productive at work. There seems to be this incessant need to prove our value by a myriad of things: projects completed, deadlines met, hours worked, hours billed, jokes told, ideas presented, etc. And yet, what if I told you that it was this need to prove, this pressure to be productive, that was actually keeping your productivity down?
It’s true. Because productivity isn’t a product of pressure. Nope. It’s a product of intention, which is how you approach a job. It’s where you’re coming from. And from what I’ve learned, the lighter you approach a job (i.e. the less pressure), the more you can accomplish. It’s one of the Universe’s cosmic jokes: when you stop trying to prove your worth, you discover your value. And it’s not that it wasn’t there all along. It’s just that you couldn’t see it – or more importantly – you couldn’t feel it.
So if you really want to increase your productivity at work, then stop pressuring yourself and start trusting that how you are is just as important as what you are.
If this topic speaks to your heart (or your pressure :~), then I invite you to check out this coaching call I’ve got coming up in September. Click here to see the invitation on SimplyFearless.com
Aug 19 2009
What is your heart asking you to do?
Today I asked myself:
What is my heart asking me to do?
And here is the answer I received:
My heart is asking me to hibernate. Don’t compare yourself to others. Focus on nurturing yourself for now. Non-action is heart action. It’s only what you need for now. It’s in the pause that you become open to receiving my wisdom.
As uncomfortable as this makes me, I know it is the right thing to do and today I let go of another layer of guilt. I’m already on sabbatical and I give myself permission to relax through it. It’s okay to stop trying and start allowing the answers to emerge.
So I’m curious…what is your heart asking you to do? or not do?!
p.s. Today on the Simply Fearless FB Fan Page I posted another awesome quote from my journal about beating yourself up. So if you are like me and find that self-criticism kicks in when you listen to your heart, then swing by and check it out. Here’s the link.
Mar 05 2009
Are you miserably successful?
Here is the latest invitation to the Simply Fearless 8 Week Program. Please consider joining us or passing the word along. I am only writing invitations to those that I am super passionate about supporting so know that you, your friends, and family will be well taken care of. Thank you!
Are you miserably successful?
Do you wonder why you aren’t happier since you have all the things people say should make you happy?
Would you like more purpose and meaning in your work?
If so, then we’ve got just the program for you and hope you will join us for…
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Before I became a certified professional coach I was a tax accountant. And I was really good at preparing tax returns. I was also miserable. Yes, I could pay the bills, live a comfortable life, and find work easily. But, that “comfortable life” turned into pain when I wasn’t answering a deeper calling within myself. The thing is, we need both. We need deep fulfillment and financial security. And I’m here to tell you that it’s possible.
Hi there, my name is Coach Cassandra Rae and I have created an 8 week group coaching program to help you design, create, and live Your Simply Fearless Life! This revolutionary program is all about teaching you the skills and tools to tap into your inner guidance system, to identify your unique talents, and to build the courage to put them into practice. The world needs you to use your talents and answer your calling. The real question is: Are you ready?
Here’s how the Simply Fearless 8 Week Program works:
- 8 weekly sessions over the phone or in person in Sunnyvale
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The weekly topics are:
- Uniquely Equal ~ different roles, equal value
Compassionate Honesty ~ truth with heart - Part 1 Awareness ~ honor your inner knowing
- Part 2 Acceptance ~ let go of what’s hurting, embrace what’s helping
- Loving Boundaries ~ saying no with ease
- Freedom Structures ~ external guidance for internal freedom
- Responsible Risk ~ smart and inspired action
- Connected Independence ~ stand on your own together
- Celebrate! ~ an ending and a new beginning
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Jul 09 2008
Cure to Insecurity?
This morning during my meditation God and I had this conversation:
~ God, what is my greatest challenge in building a coaching practice?
{note: this question was inspired by Cheri Huber in my daily read of Making a Change for Good A Guide to Compassionate Self-Discipline}
~ Not believing in yourself.
~ But, why? Why don’t I believe in myself? When I do what I do, I do it well. And when I see others do what I do, I feel I can do it better. Why don’t I have a solid sense of confidence? Oh my! I just revealed that I believe there’s a “once and for all” cure to insecurity!
~ It does not work that way.
~ I know! So why am I hitting my head against the wall?
~ Because it feels good to at least a part of you.
~ But, why? Oh my goodness, because I can control it! I can control ramming my head against the wall. But, I can’t control whether or not someone hires me. This owning your own business thing is like a perpetual, never-ending job interview!
~ It’s always about giving up control for you. The more you let go, the more success you will enjoy. Let go of perfectionism and be yourself. You are talented and here to serve a big purpose. The world needs you. Families need you.
~ Okay, God. I open myself up to receive your strength. I am willing to let go of trying to control the process. I am willing to put myself out there because I know you will never reject and abandon me no matter what happens. I trust you will not lead me to failure. In fact, in my head I already know that your intention is to lead all of us to success, deep fulfillment, and loving relationships. It is time for me to practice all of this in my heart. Thank you for infusing me with compassion, understanding, and inspiration this morning. I love you!
