Feb 23 2010
100 Things I Fear: family reunion
99. {12/29/09} Today I reconnected with an extended family member that I haven’t seen for about 7-8 years. I was nervous, but it was fun. All I had to do was be myself and that’s easy :~)
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Feb 22 2010
100 Things I Fear: ridiculous expectations
98. {12/28/09} Today I gave myself permission to focus on work even though The Fam was off of work and school. I went to a 3 hour writing session, held my monthly coaching call, and posted to my blog. It was wonderful. Oh yeah, and I asked The Hubs to help out with The Girl so that I could work some more! It felt so good to do my thing even though part of me was like, “You’re supposed to be focusing on family right now.” It just amazes me how black and white that pesky little voice of fear is. As if I’m a bad mother if I’m not 100% focused on family all the time. That’s ridiculous and I’m proud of myself for not holding myself to an unobtainable standard.
Feb 19 2010
100 Things I Fear: connecting with family
95. {12/25/09} Merry Christmas! Today I went to my in-laws without The Hubs who is at home sick. This is amazing movement for us as the in-laws and I haven’t always gotten along. But, we’ve done a lot of work over the last couple years and now it’s paying off. We spend time together because we like one another and want to connect on holidays. Woohoo!
Feb 18 2010
100 Things I Fear: living my own way
93. {12/23/09} Today The Hubs and I traveled back from Florida with my father-in-law, his wife, and my brother-in-law. We arrived at the airport in two separate vehicles and instead of waiting for the rest of the party I went ahead and checked in and went through security. Even though fear was saying that I was supposed to wait and go in together, I gave myself permission to travel at my own speed. I’m kind of anal about getting through security with plenty of time to spare. Plus, I wasn’t feeling very social.
You know, one of the things I’ve learned through the 100 Things I Fear challenge is that it’s these little, small, and seemingly insignificant fears that really make a difference in life. I mean, think about it. How many times a day are you letting that whisper of fear call the shots? I challenge you to pay attention and the next time you hear it, say no, and choose for yourself who and how you are going to be.
Feb 16 2010
100 Things I Fear: sharing my frustration
91. {12/21/09} I shared my frustration about a situation without attacking anyone. I was afraid of sharing how I felt, but I simply couldn’t sit back and not say anything. It actually turned out to be very helpful as everyone learned more about each other in the process.
Feb 15 2010
100 Things I Fear: choosing for myself
90. {12/20/09} Today I went to church with Uncle Bob & Aunt Mary. I didn’t just do what my father-in-law was doing. I thought about it and decided for myself where I wanted to go. I’m so glad I did too because I really enjoyed myself and my father-in-law was totally cool with it. In fact, afterward he was curious to hear about the service.
You know, on the outside it’s totally obvious that it’s okay to choose for oneself. And yet, so often we just do what others (especially parents) expect us to do. But, it really is okay.
Jan 13 2010
100 Things I Fear: parenting
56. {11/16/09} I am so proud of myself for calmly getting us through what could have been a major disaster. I really can’t share the details as they aren’t mine to share, but I can tell you that I faced some serious parenting fears. I got through it by:
- Not pushing anyone through it
- Focused only on the next step
- Asked for outside help
- Shared my truth with compassion
- Held her to new standards
- Reflected on it afterward
Jan 12 2010
100 Things I Fear: teens
55. {11/15/09} I had a heart-wrenching experience today. My teenage daughter is going through some major stuff and as a parent I am often confused, triggered, and totally baffled by her process. But, I am so proud of myself for consistently sharing the truth about my observations, my feelings, and my intuition. I’ve also called her on her behavior without shouting and sometimes that is so hard when all I want to do is ring her neck. But, that is just fear and I have the strength, courage, and know-how to walk through these fears – even when they involve my baby. Oy! I trust we are going to make it through this.
Nov 08 2009
Our House Is a Mess and I’m so Grateful!
Guess what we’re doing?
Here this might help:
Of course I had to get shots of my babies too:
As you can see the animal babies are much more camera friendly!
I will be sure to post more photos next Sunday & we should be finished in 2 weeks {fingers crossed!}
Be sure to swing on by Sarcastic Mom to check out the other photographers & of course, post your own Weekly Winners!
Oct 08 2009
Dear Alex ~ you are literary genious.
Alex the novelist
Dear Alex ~
I don’t know exactly why I’m writing this here on my blog. I just am. And I wonder if it was inspired by this beautiful tribute post. You know what? It doesn’t really matter why…
A few years ago you gave me a manuscript to read. I’ve always thought of it as the Dearest Rook manuscript as those are the first two words of the prologue. Anyway, I never read it. I don’t know why {I’m sensing a theme here.} I just didn’t. In fact, I’ve moved it around from pile to pile of paper in my office until finally it made its home in an upright paper organizer on my desk just behind my laptop. Whenever I gaze off into la-la land to give my mind a break I often rest my eyes on “Dearest Rook.”
Well, this afternoon while I was waiting for my computer to reboot I rediscovered your manuscript. Before thinking about it, I picked it up and read the first paragraph. And there was simply no way I could put it down after that juicy adventure of an introduction. I have now spent the last hour reading every single word, sentence, and suggestion {there are notes in the sidebar.}
One of the final notes written about your manuscript was “very good” and I must passionately disagree.
It’s not very good.
Alex, it’s beautiful.
No, that’s not the right description.
It’s amazing.
No, that doesn’t sum it up either.
Alex, it’s literary.
It’s genius.
It’s literary genius!
And I *LOVE* it.
You are a master at crafting words to create a vibrant and very real scene in the reader’s eye complete with physical and emotional sensations. You are a magical story teller.
I’m so sorry that I didn’t take the time to see this when you initially gave me the manuscript. I can only trust that right now, today is the absolute perfect time for me to realize that you are a talented writer. This is print worthy fiction and I am dying to know how the first 3 chapters fit together in the bigger picture of the novel, how the characters meet one another, if Yuri is murdered, how Edwin comes to believe, if Jennifer lives, and so much more.
Alex, it is no coincidence that you now work in a library surrounded by books. I know that you are meant to write, to be published, and to be a part of a library long after you’ve physically left this world. You are talented beyond description. And you don’t have to wait to become a writer. You already are one.
Please write more. And if you’ve already written more of the Dearest Rook manuscript please send me a copy.
I love you.
~ Tia
