Jan 19 2010
62. {11/22/09} Went to a Pampered Chef party and didn’t buy anything. I felt like I was supposed to, but our kitchen is still a mess during remodel and we have way too much stuff. I do not need to bring in more stuff.
Oct 20 2009
In this video {2:15} I talk about feeling like a failure {yuk!} and how I moved through it.
Now that you’ve watched it, what do you think? I’d love to hear about your insights and struggles.
Sep 09 2009
In this video I talk about the biggest barrier to living Your Simply Fearless Life and give you some key phrases to watch for so that you can catch yourself in the process!
Here is the link to what I talk about in the video.
{note for email subscribers: to watch this 3 min video click the title above}
Sep 06 2009
Every Sunday Lotus over at Sarcastic Mom holds a photo party where everyone is invited to share their best photos from the week. Here are mine along with some of my personal wins for the week:
I posted the invitation for my upcoming free Simply Fearless Coaching Call!
I posted my very first video blog all about connecting with your heart!
I found heaven!
I talked to God who told me to forget all about doing a good job!
I explored the topic of productivity at work
SimplyFearless.com was nominated for the best wordpress design!
Aug 31 2009
One of the things that The Hubs and I talk about a lot is the pressure to be productive at work. There seems to be this incessant need to prove our value by a myriad of things: projects completed, deadlines met, hours worked, hours billed, jokes told, ideas presented, etc. And yet, what if I told you that it was this need to prove, this pressure to be productive, that was actually keeping your productivity down?
It’s true. Because productivity isn’t a product of pressure. Nope. It’s a product of intention, which is how you approach a job. It’s where you’re coming from. And from what I’ve learned, the lighter you approach a job (i.e. the less pressure), the more you can accomplish. It’s one of the Universe’s cosmic jokes: when you stop trying to prove your worth, you discover your value. And it’s not that it wasn’t there all along. It’s just that you couldn’t see it – or more importantly – you couldn’t feel it.
So if you really want to increase your productivity at work, then stop pressuring yourself and start trusting that how you are is just as important as what you are.
Aug 29 2009
“Letting go of the pressure” from my photo journal dated 06/27/07
You guys, I’m so excited! Why? you ask. Because I’m in the process of putting together a group call all about:
PRESSURE!
Pressure is by far the biggest barrier that stops people from living their Simply Fearless life and I can’t wait to get this discussion started. Stay tuned for more information and an invitation. In the meantime, let go of the pressure! How? you ask. Join the call to find out :~)
Jun 25 2009
During this morning’s conversation with God I asked him why he was always so accepting of me and giving me permission to feel how I feel no matter how much I don’t like how I feel and he didn’t even have to answer me directly. In my frustration about his acceptance – can you believe I was frustrated by being accepted?! – I was venting about it and realized that if he scolded me for where I was at and told me that I have to do x, y, or z, that then I would totally rebel against him.
It was such an eye opener and all of a sudden I had a deeper understanding why giving myself permission is so much more powerful than pressuring myself into moving forward.
You see, I tend to do that: pressure myself relentlessly.
But, whenever I’m connecting with God he doesn’t do that to me. Instead he continually tells me, “That’s okay.” Even when I’m like, “I feel like such a failure!” he always responds with, “That’s okay.”
And this morning I was fed up. I asked, “How is that okay? How is it okay that I feel uninspired? Can’t you just force me to stay inspired?”
And that’s when it hit me! It really wouldn’t work if God continually told me that I’m not okay and forced me to take action.
So, if God is smart enough to know that force doesn’t work, then why am I continually trying to force myself?
You know, it’s such a human thing to force and try. That’s really not what I should focus on here. It would be way more powerful for me to make a commitment to follow God’s lead, give myself permission, and embrace myself along the way.
So today as I begin my day I am willing to commit to notice whenever I’m pressuring myself, to let it go, and to give myself permission to be where I’m at. And you know what? I feel more inspired now than I have in weeks!
What about you? Which path will you choose? Pressuring yourself into action? Or accepting yourself into it? I’d love to hear your take. Please post your thoughts, fears, and insights.
Feb 27 2009
This morning during my Active Meditation I learned about The Art of Not Knowing. It came up because I realized two things about where I was at:
Then I was gently reminded how much pressure these two things put on me and I realized that I always tell others that it’s not why it’s how. For example, we don’t always understand our feelings in the moment, but if we let go of needing to know why, then the understanding flows.
So today I commit to practicing The Art of Not Knowing, which means that I fully step into the wide, open space of the unknown with the intention of learning, playing, and discovering.
Wow! This is sooooooooo much better than beating myself up with needs and have-to’s. I invite you to give it a whirl too. Come on, you know it sounds enticing…
Feb 24 2009
Each morning I check in with God through Active Meditation. It begins with my Daily Journaling Practice, walking my dog, stretching out, working out for 35 minutes, and then I sit down and type out my conversation with God. It’s a powerful process and so I thought I would share with you yesterday’s notes:
Me: Good morning, God!
God: Good morning.
Me: I come to you today with an open heart and mind. I don’t have an agenda or anything in particular in mind.
God: Sweet.
Me: So I’m here to check in with you. What would you like me to focus on today?
God: I love how you are already focusing on joy. I saw that you realized how much easier it was to work out {at the gym} when your mind and heart were filled with joy.
Me: yes, I loved it. In fact, there were times when I thought, “This is supposed to be harder!” and then I just let it go and continued on with my easy workout.
God: Good for you. It is important {for you to understand} that life was not designed to be hard and difficult. It was designed to require hard work. And yet, enjoyable work. Work that is challenging and energizing all at the same time.
Me: oh I like that! It takes some of the pressure off. Speaking of pressure, what’s up with the human need to be productive all the time?
God: Ah yes, the need to be productive. It’s more about panic as opposed to productivity isn’t it?
Me: yes! Because I have noticed that it is easier to be productive when I don’t need to be productive.
God: yes! That is the key. Notice the difference between what you say is the driving force and what truly is the driving force. This is where a lot of humans run into trouble in creating their lives. They say one thing with their mouths and something different with their hearts.
Me: oh wow! That’s insightful. Thank you!
God: you’re welcome.
Me: okay, I need to go get ready for me day.
God: I thought that’s what we were doing!
Me: you’re funny, God! I mean that I need to go shower and get ready for my next appointment.
God: well, thank you for making me one of your first appointments of the day!
Me: you’re welcome! Anything else you’d like to say before I sign off?
God: Nope. Be a joyful day!
Me: thank you.
God: you’re so very welcome.
Aug 29 2008
