Coach Cassandra Rae

wow, thank you! big hugs to you too!

You are such a woderful person Cassandra, even if I don't know you, I feel it deeply. This post touches me intensly, because I have a difficult relationship with my oldest daughter who is now 12. Sometimes I see myself so mean with her, because I don't know how to do differently. I just realized yesterday that I let my fears and obligations dictate my ways with my chlidren, even if my heart wants to give love and see them as beautiful, wonderful persons, my speach doesn't really show that often and I am really sad about this. Through the 100 fear thing, I decided today I will appreciate more than I critisize... I will try and try some more until it works and love is really the first thing in our life, love is the language I start to speak with them today. Thank you for being there. Have a great day!

Thank you so much, Nancy!

First of all, I super admire your willingness to share your true feelings about your relationship with your 12 yo daughter. 12 is an especially trying time for everyone - tween & parents alike. Even in the best of circumstances it's challenging. 12 year olds are trying to establish themselves as a teen even though they aren't there yet and often times that equates to lashing out at parents. So the fact that you have found yourself being mean doesn't surprise me at all. It's perfectly natural. And it's not the most effective way to parent through it. You are on the right track about turning towards love as a solution. And here's what I encourage you to do:

Whenever you find yourself feeling angry or being mean, simply pause, and love YOURSELF through it. You can say something like:

"Hey, this is a challenging situation. It's okay to be upset. You're doing your best and I love you for that."

The more you speak to yourself in a loving way, the more you can speak to your kids lovingly. And remember: this is a process. So give yourself permission to be where you're at knowing that you are growing and loving yourself through it!

*HUGS*

Hi Cassandra, thanks, i have been working with a healing teacher for the last three years who incorporates a lot of Eva Pierrakos spiritual teachings, I find it a very interesting methodology, I have a book review which I have prepared for personal use that I can share with you if you send me your email, also all her work is posted for online reading too (if you google her name)... kisses
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Thanks Ruba!

@Ruba ~ Thank you so much. It's interesting how you talk about "original pain". I'd love to read more about that. If you blog(ged) about it, then please send me a link.

@Andrea ~ Oh I feel your hug now! Yes, this young man has touched my heart & everyone else who has connected through this VLOG. I hadn't thought about it like that before. Thank you for pointing it out. It reminds me that all of us really don't realize how much of an impact we have on others.

@Nancy ~ Thank you so much Sis. Your support inspires me to keep going. The support of my family is priceless.

@Jerry ~ I'm totally teary eyed as I read your comment! That's one of the things I adore about you: how you see me & love me. You've always had this way of eliciting my emotions. Thank you and much love to you too.
.-= Cassandra Rae´s last blog ..Tools for Living: de-stress & feel better now =-.

Hi Cassandra
I just watched what you put here so this is a quick and totally unfiltered reaction. Your courage just blows me away. What I mean is how you fearlessly let us see your unchecked deeply seated emotions. That is just one thing I love about you. Your sensitivity is a strength and an inspiration to those of us who are more guarded. Thank you and much love.
Jerry

Thanks Cassandra for sharing. This is your best Vlog yet. I'll be praying that the young man is okay and that he is safe. Please be careful.

I love you.

Hugs,
~Your big Sis
.-= Nance´s last blog ..Pink Persimmon... =-.

Its rather interesting how everything is connected. Because he was sitting there when you happened to be out for a walk, other lives have been touched. Lives that he may never have touched had he not been sitting there.

I appreciate you! I adore you! And I wish I could give you and this young man a hug warm hug!
.-= Andrea Baker´s last blog ..Sassy Affair October 9th {Vendors Needed} =-.

Thanks Cassandra for sharing, its beautiful, we resonate with abandonment because it is within us, its part of our original pain... but its not only that there, your empathy and amazing way of connecting to people whether in person or through your words must have definitely brought some light into the darkness of this young mans heart... hugs to you!
.-= Ruba´s last blog ..What do you mean by Faith! =-.